I had the fortuitous opportunity to travel in a hot air balloon recently – the destination was Dambulla-Kandalama, Sri Lanka.
My excellent driver Shaminda drove me from Negombo to Dambulla, a very early start, but so worth the experience with Sri Lanka Balloon – https://www.srilankaballoon.com, truly magic in the air across the beautiful forestry and landscapes, a real adventure.
A hot air balloon gives us the time and space to see the world from a different perspective. You get a 360°-view whilst watching the sunrise – akin to standing on the peak of a mountain you took the time to climb up.
Experienced mountain climbers know one only gets breathtaking views at the summit.
Flying a hot Air Balloon in Dumbella
And did you know that hot air balloons were the first means for humans to fly?
We have Leonardo Da Vinci’s curiosity and ideas to thank for this. He was interested in how birds could fly for longer periods of time without constantly having to flap their wings, and started drawing gliders and the likes.
These were followed by complex calculations to understand the physics of flying. His sketches were used as an inspiration by the Montgolfier brothers for inventing the hot air balloon later on.
A balloon ride can be a great metaphor for life. There is so much we cannot control. We cannot control the direction of the wind and if we struggle against it, we will only waste our energy. When we allow ourselves to surrender to the wind we may notice the things around us in a different way. When we go up or down in the balloon our perspective will change.
The distance from which we look at something impacts our experience. When we are flying low to the ground, everything seems large and appears to be moving quickly. When you are flying high in the air, everything seems small and appears to be moving slowly. We can’t control which direction the wind blows us, but we can choose to rise above the struggles of the day to see them from a distance. When we create distance from our negative thoughts or feelings, they don’t seem so big; mountains become foothills, houses become toys, people become ants.
On our journey towards self-knowledge, our first impulse is often to turn inward, introspect and self-reflect. We give great weight to our introspections. Most of us are confident that our perceptions of ourselves are more accurate than others’ perceptions of them.
Yet psychological research tells us that introspection is often a highly inaccurate source of self-knowledge. An over-reliance on introspection sometimes trips one up and potentially decreases one’s performance, reducing decision quality and even undermining self-insight.
This distance gives us a bigger picture and often we can see things we couldn’t see before. We might notice other details or possibilities.
What I’m describing is a process called cognitive defusion which is a component of acceptance and commitment therapy and has shown to have a huge benefit on mental health and wellness. The goal is not to escape or avoid those difficult thoughts or feelings, it’s just to see them from a different angle. To create some distance, so that we are looking at them rather than from them.
Many of us learn complex information and concepts best through the use of story and metaphor. Metaphors are especially useful when understanding concepts of cognitive defusion. Finding an exercise or metaphor that works for you can be a useful tool for the difficult moments.
The hot air balloon metaphor is one of many ways to practice this technique of defusion. Other common exercises include observing your thoughts as a train on a track, or leaves on a stream, or playing with the words themselves (de-literalizing language).
I watched the pilot going up into the air streams, picking a current of wind, letting the balloon wander and then guiding it towards the landing area. This made me think of the analogy with the life path and realise that there is no correct way to approach life! Each person controls their life until reaching a destination. No matter how difficult the path, it all ends the same! It works with the concept that the universe adjusts to accommodate your decisions.
Embracing life while overcoming hurdles is a continuous learning curve. As you move forward, an open mind and self-awareness will help you respond to what the world throws at you.
You might not have got the life you wanted, but surely you got the life you needed. A life that pushed you in a direction you wouldn’t have selected on your own. A life that taught you lessons you didn’t even realise you needed to learn.
You make so much effort to control every aspect of your life. You always think you know what is best, but when you are faced with the unexpected you are left feeling distressed.
What you should remember is that life knows what is best for you. Therefore, the best thing to do is to embrace it by surrendering and enjoying the ride.
Surrendering is not considered a weakness it requires strength in order to recognize the moment in front of you while surfing the current of life. Learn to trust the process. Learn to let go. Accept what life is presenting you in any given moment.
Perhaps, I could be wrong. It is conceivable that everyone on the earth plain has a meaningful life in their own way, we all make choices, we all have dreams, and we all possess the ability to see out our individual outcomes, our purpose and trusting that the choices we make drive learning, expansion and growth.
Every leader eventually faces difficult circumstances. In these situations, perseverance, determination and courage is a must if you are to be able to achieve your goals. Without these traits, the opportunity to succeed becomes less because you don’t have the ability to persist.
There are countless examples of courageous leaders. The one thing that each has in common is their determination to continue pushing forward, despite what others believe, or what current circumstances continue to throw up at them.
The Greek philosopher, Aristotle, believed courage to be the most important quality in a man. “Courage is the first of human virtues because it makes all others possible.” When we are courageous, we step outside our comfort zone of predictability and familiarity and are exposed to new ideas. We can take in new information and broaden our understanding of the world, an important tool in overcoming adversity.
Having courage enables us to stay our course when external circumstances threaten to challenge our well-being. It empowers us to confront problems head-on, even if having doubts, rather than risk experiencing fear, resignation and victimization.
Through courage, we are better able to control our destiny and honour who we are and in what we believe. We have a chance to avoid even greater problems that might have resulted had we not been courageous.
We develop a psychological muscle when we push through fear. This muscle helps us when we need the strength and resilience to overcome or avoid adversity. The more we exercise this muscle, the more our self-confidence and faith will grow. We will feel empowered to confront problems head-on and courageous in challenging times that fill us with pain and fear.
Life is meant to take challenges and overcome hurdles and obstacles instead of having reservations on challenges. Success lies in going beyond the boundaries and leaving no stone unturned for achieving your goals. One has to read between the lines that what success lies in because pain is the only thing that tells that a person is alive.
When you believe in your purpose you can work through obstacles, overcome disappointments and endure hardship.
Everyone has a story, despite difficulties in family life, professional setbacks and extraordinary events like COVID-19. The journey of life is the learning’s, we all possess the determination, passion, drive, creativity and skills to create a foundation.
Business professionals and individuals in the great challenges of today’s business world have renewed responsibility for what business does best: innovate, invest and grow.
We are all extraordinary people and have the ability to share and provide wealth creation and richness to our surroundings – the bigger question is how much do we want to change and to be extraordinary?
In the words of Leonardo DaVinci:
“When once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, and there you will always long to return.”
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